Workplace bullying happens more often than you might think. Nearly half of U.S. workers have experienced it in some form, yet in most cases, the bully faced little to no consequences. Workplace bullying can take many different forms, from bosses who threaten punishment to co-workers who mock another’s abilities.
Leadership expert Kevin Cashman says bullies often lack the character, courage and competence to lead with values, inspiration, service and collaboration. He says there are many ways you can identify these aggressive, self-centered types. We share his thoughts in this issue of PromoPro Daily.
1. They’re egocentric. Workplace bullies need to be the center of attention. As such, Cashman says they will belittle, demean and put others down to maintain their illusion of superiority. Be careful, he says, not to associate egocentricity with toughness, competence or confidence.
2. They recruit weaker people. Another sure sign of a workplace bully? They attract weaker people into their fold in order to build up their image. The caveat, Cashman says, is that the bully needs to be the sole leader and will only allow weaker people into their immediate sphere. When you associate yourself with a bully, you become weaker.
3. They lie. They alter the facts to make themselves look good, Cashman says. They often create alternate realities with themselves at the center. By twisting the facts, they can derail others’ logical thinking and manipulate their perspective. This makes bullies dangerous — you never know what to believe.
4. They’re loyal — until you become a threat. Cashman points out that bullies willingly throw supporters under the bus. Workplace bullies need to maintain a hold on power at all costs, he says. As long as they maintain control, they don’t care who they hurt in the process.
5. They need constant praise. Workplace bullies have a constant need for admiration. Everyone likes to hear good things about their work and contributions, but a constant need for validation isn’t healthy — or normal.
6. They become increasingly aggressive. Cashman says once a bully begins to lose the appeal that makes others bow to him, he may engage in activities that are far outside the realm of civility and rationality. On a deeper level, Cashman says the behavior of bullies closely intersects with sociopaths.
When left unchecked, a bully can wreak havoc on individuals and organizations. Calling them out may be tough, but it’s crucial for fostering a healthy, productive work environment.
Compiled by Audrey Sellers
Source: Kevin Cashman is a best-selling author, global thought leader, keynote speaker and vice chairman and CEO at Korn Ferry.
